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Several Success in Degrees Student Reflections on Alan C. Fox’s “People Tools”
“As I opened the book on NYC subway, I was intrigued right from the beginning and fascinated by how much these small adjustments to myself could help me succeed in all of the relationships I have and hope to have. But what particularly impressed me were rules 9—The Picture: Function Over Form, and 32—Tip the Messenger. These two rules truly made me think in a different way, in large measure because I am a recovering perfectionist and am trying to take a different, happier, less exacting, and overall more forgiving (of myself and of others!) approach to life. I really enjoyed People Tools—it’s helping me become the person I want to be! “
Amiah, junior at Barnard College (studying at Spelman College this fall via the two schools’ Domestic Exchange Program), majoring in Sociology.
“I really like “Fry Another Egg” because it is a reminder that we do not have to accept 
things for what they are all the time. Sometimes we have to shake things up and start from square one to really get to where we need to be. The story hits close to home because as an undergrad, I switched majors from Biology to Psychology after becoming discouraged. However, upon graduation I knew that I still ultimately wanted to become a Physician so I enrolled in a post baccalaureate program for Medicine. I am now currently applying to Physician Assistant school and am one step closer to my dream of working in the medical field. I think everyone can benefit from frying another egg, tomato, steak, or whatever fits their fancy. We should not allow ourselves to become complacent or comfortable. There is always room for improvement! “
Antonia, earned her BA at Dickinson College, just completed her Post-Bac/Pre-Med at Charles R. Drew University of Medicine, and is now applying Physician Assistant programs as she steadfastly pursues her ultimate goal of becoming a pediatrician.
“Throughout my high school and college years, Deanne Scott, a valued mentor of mine, encouraged me to read more, both for personal pleasure and self-growth, as well as useful research for my entrepreneurial goals. I now consume between 3-4 books a month and fight to find time to do still more research to help myself as well as to help my new business. When Deanne told me about Alan C. Fox’s People Tools, I excitedly read it as well as his other business and relationship books. Reading his books is like sitting on a comfy couch inside a cabin near the fireplace, with the starlight twinkling in and Alan C. Fox sharing real life stories on how we can become better people.
Letting people go from my business because of performance has always been difficult for me. People Tools has let me see the opportunity created by allowing two oppositions to pull in the direction they are meant to go.
Business requires extreme focus and strength in relationships. One relationship that is extremely important to me is my partner. She is someone I believe I can share my life with. Alan and his wife perform an exercise by which each person takes turns getting things off their chest. This is performed during separate times, so the opposing person is not allowed to rebut. They are only allowed
to listen to the information provided. During a stressful business night I told my partner about this exercise. I let her know that there were things that I needed to tell her. That night I cried about the stresses of a start-up business. I let her know the hurt I felt from firing my first employee. I shared with her all the ways I believed my business would change the world. Later that week, she opened up to me about the struggles of working for a big four consulting firm (PricewaterhouseCoopers), the difficulties of “busy season,” and she elaborated on the next necessary steps to see her own entrepreneurial ambitions come true. We understand each other. Our businesses will not hinder the strength of our relationship, they will only complement it. The exercise introduced to us by Mr. Fox has become very exciting for us. The first time we tried it, it was it used to get sadness off our chests. The past several times have simply been used as a tool to express ideas and moments of joy. All relationships can improve with this method.
Gazing at the stars can make your mind race. Sitting by the fireplace will bring warmth into your life. A cozy couch while listening to words of wisdom will bring you joy and expose you to life’s secrets. The same can be said from reading Alan C. Fox’s People Tools. It has been a blessing to my life. ”
Emmanual earned his MBA from Hampton University in 2013 and, immediately following graduation, began working for PricewaterhouseCoopers in Washington, D.C. Last Spring he took the bold and courageous move of leaving PwC and establishing Just Another Dreamer’s Dreams, a company that assists young entrepreneurs and is founded on the principle that anything is possible. Emmanual also serves on Success in Degrees’ Advisory Board.
I don’t think of myself as a professional entertainer. Far from it. I’m most comfortable talking with a friend at lunch or, at most, another couple when dining out. I’m outside my comfort zone if I’m expected to socialize with many people in one room.
I still remember a “surprise” party I threw for my girlfriend (later to become my wife) for her nineteenth birthday. I planned the party for weeks, especially the entertainment which consisted of games with prizes. I had cleverly structured the evening so that every one of the twelve or fourteen guests would win a valuable prize. If that sounds to you like I was trying to “buy” friends, you are exactly right. On the appointed night, even though I waited for an extra hour, two of the invited couples failed to arrive. This put a crimp in my plans and a dent in my self-esteem. The party was a success, but by the end of the evening I felt no exhilaration as I shut the front door on the heels of the final couple to leave. I only sensed relief and exhaustion. There had been no major crisis, and that was about as good as I could have expected.
During the past fifty or more years I have hosted a number of parties for as many as three hundred guests. I am more comfortable now, since there has never been a disaster. In fact, the vast majority of my guests seem to thoroughly enjoy themselves. I know this because I am often asked, “When’s the next party?” Even so, I still worry.
From my experience I offer five secrets on how to successfully entertain a group of many, even if you’re a natural introvert like I am.
Provide enough food and drink to satisfy everyone. I’ve been to a few parties where the food consisted of stale potato chips and the drink was one bottle of diet coke to be shared six ways.Of course, if all else fails I might pass out some of those expensive party favors saved from that “surprise” nineteenth birthday party I worried about so many years ago.
Alan
