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Since You Can Never Tell, Always Tell

by Alan C. Fox 8 Comments

predicting-future-peopletoolsNone of us knows what will happen tomorrow.

One Monday morning my brother David didn’t show up for work. He was only sixty years old, and yet the unthinkable had happened. We have missed him for more than twelve years now.

Yesterday we received a call that Danny, our beloved cousin, had been admitted to City of Hope with a diagnosis of pancreatic cancer.  His daughter was flying in from England, and his son driving down to Los Angeles from Fresno.

Bad stuff happens.  We all know that.  But too often we forget that every one of us can create good stuff.  A lot of good stuff.  Every day.

What’s the good stuff?  Four days before he failed to arrive for work, my brother wrote a three-page birthday letter to his adult son Kevin.  In his letter David told Kevin how proud he was of him, and how important Kevin was in his life.  Kevin read the letter to us at David’s memorial service. It was the most meaningful and lasting gift his father could have given to him.

DoItNow-PeopleToolsAre you “up to date” with everyone you care about in your life?  Are there any “I love you’s” left unsaid that you still intend to deliver to your mother, your father, or anyone else who is special to you?  Will you tell them the next time you see them?  Why not call or text them right now?

And you have the power to do so much more. Why wait to convey “thank you,” “I appreciate you,” “you’re my hero,” or any other positive message you feel in your heart to anyone and everyone you meet?

Although we can never tell about tomorrow, or even ten minutes from now, I like to bring light and joy into the lives of those I care about every time I see them.

You can make a difference in someone else’s life.  Right now.

Alan

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Clapping for Customers

heartsushi-peopletoolsFor more than ten years the Italian restaurant next door to my office has been my “go to” place for a quick lunch with friends and clients.  No drive, no parking, good food, and the added benefit of supporting a neighbor. But a few months ago, sadly, Mezzo Mondo closed its doors and vanished.

As I left my office yesterday evening I noticed a new Japanese restaurant had taken its place.  The lights were bright, liveried valet on duty, a smiling hostess at the front door, three waiters hovering, and four white-hatted sushi chefs standing tall behind the back counter.  As my wife and I walked in the front door the entire staff applauded our entrance.  I don’t think this was because of our celebrity or good looks.

We all like to know the opinions of other customers, especially for a restaurant we’ve never tried.  That’s what Yelp is all about – user opinions.  Personally, I always hesitate before sitting down in a restaurant with no other diners.  What does everyone else know that I might have to discover for myself?  But I gave this restaurant the benefit of the doubt because I knew this was their opening day.

Our dinner was fine.  As you can imagine, the service was quick. I ordered a little more than I usually would because I somehow felt responsible for their lack of other customers. My excitement to have a new restaurant open in a convenient location was tempered by my concern about food spoiling, staff quitting, and the restaurant soon closing if their business didn’t pick up.

It’s fine to write a better book or, as they say, build a better mouse trap (or restaurant), but a great product is not enough.  You also have to get the word out.  You have to market and advertise.  It seems to me that business, like life itself, resembles a decathlon, in which to be successful, you have to be at least adequate in every event.

Alan-Teddy-PeopleToolsBut just as no one is ever going to hold the world record in both the shot put and the hundred meter dash, none of us can be great at everything.  I know many people who are outstanding at their work, but can’t quite translate their ability and effort into real money.  I know others who are wonderful friends, but who haven’t yet found the love relationship they aspire to and deserve.

Your life starts, and ends, with you, and life is what happens while you’re making plans.  To help my life along I’m resolving again, even though it’s not yet New Year’s Day, to fully enjoy whatever I do, be friendly to everyone, and support friends and family in their ventures.

And if you’re in the mood for an excellent Japanese lunch or dinner, just stand in front of my office building and turn left.  You might even receive applause when you walk through the front door.

Alan

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The Top Ten Things That I Enjoy

by Alan Fox 6 Comments

Alan-IceCream-Top10ThingsI find that I am often thinking or writing about how to improve my life, how to perform a task better, or how to avoid a problem.  Today I’d rather just write about the top ten things I enjoy in my life – in other words, what reliably transforms my mood to happy.  I list these in no particular order, because each of them brings a smile to my face, for a shorter or longer period of time, and happy is happy.  There is no eighty percent or eighty-five percent about it.

  1. Chocolate ice cream. Enough said.
  2. An orange sunset, with clouds.
  3. Good news. Of course, my happiness lasts about as long as my happiness from that dish of chocolate ice cream.
  4. Making love.
  5. Cuddling.
  6. A movie or play that is deeply moving such as Million Dollar Baby.
  7. A kind note from a reader.
  8. Connecting with someone face to face in a personal conversation.
  9. The three battery-operated but real looking candles in my bedroom, which turn themselves on at 8:00 pm each night.
  10. Money in the bank.

Happiness-PeopleTools-2Goodness!  Just writing about what makes me happy brings me happiness, so I’ll add one more – being with young children who are excited and happy.

What are your top ten?  Or five?  Or twenty?  Let me know, and I’ll share reader responses in a future blog.

I wish you a happy Tuesday.

Alan

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