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Clapping for Customers

heartsushi-peopletoolsFor more than ten years the Italian restaurant next door to my office has been my “go to” place for a quick lunch with friends and clients.  No drive, no parking, good food, and the added benefit of supporting a neighbor. But a few months ago, sadly, Mezzo Mondo closed its doors and vanished.

As I left my office yesterday evening I noticed a new Japanese restaurant had taken its place.  The lights were bright, liveried valet on duty, a smiling hostess at the front door, three waiters hovering, and four white-hatted sushi chefs standing tall behind the back counter.  As my wife and I walked in the front door the entire staff applauded our entrance.  I don’t think this was because of our celebrity or good looks.

We all like to know the opinions of other customers, especially for a restaurant we’ve never tried.  That’s what Yelp is all about – user opinions.  Personally, I always hesitate before sitting down in a restaurant with no other diners.  What does everyone else know that I might have to discover for myself?  But I gave this restaurant the benefit of the doubt because I knew this was their opening day.

Our dinner was fine.  As you can imagine, the service was quick. I ordered a little more than I usually would because I somehow felt responsible for their lack of other customers. My excitement to have a new restaurant open in a convenient location was tempered by my concern about food spoiling, staff quitting, and the restaurant soon closing if their business didn’t pick up.

It’s fine to write a better book or, as they say, build a better mouse trap (or restaurant), but a great product is not enough.  You also have to get the word out.  You have to market and advertise.  It seems to me that business, like life itself, resembles a decathlon, in which to be successful, you have to be at least adequate in every event.

Alan-Teddy-PeopleToolsBut just as no one is ever going to hold the world record in both the shot put and the hundred meter dash, none of us can be great at everything.  I know many people who are outstanding at their work, but can’t quite translate their ability and effort into real money.  I know others who are wonderful friends, but who haven’t yet found the love relationship they aspire to and deserve.

Your life starts, and ends, with you, and life is what happens while you’re making plans.  To help my life along I’m resolving again, even though it’s not yet New Year’s Day, to fully enjoy whatever I do, be friendly to everyone, and support friends and family in their ventures.

And if you’re in the mood for an excellent Japanese lunch or dinner, just stand in front of my office building and turn left.  You might even receive applause when you walk through the front door.

Alan

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The Top Ten Things That I Enjoy

by Alan Fox 6 Comments

Alan-IceCream-Top10ThingsI find that I am often thinking or writing about how to improve my life, how to perform a task better, or how to avoid a problem.  Today I’d rather just write about the top ten things I enjoy in my life – in other words, what reliably transforms my mood to happy.  I list these in no particular order, because each of them brings a smile to my face, for a shorter or longer period of time, and happy is happy.  There is no eighty percent or eighty-five percent about it.

  1. Chocolate ice cream. Enough said.
  2. An orange sunset, with clouds.
  3. Good news. Of course, my happiness lasts about as long as my happiness from that dish of chocolate ice cream.
  4. Making love.
  5. Cuddling.
  6. A movie or play that is deeply moving such as Million Dollar Baby.
  7. A kind note from a reader.
  8. Connecting with someone face to face in a personal conversation.
  9. The three battery-operated but real looking candles in my bedroom, which turn themselves on at 8:00 pm each night.
  10. Money in the bank.

Happiness-PeopleTools-2Goodness!  Just writing about what makes me happy brings me happiness, so I’ll add one more – being with young children who are excited and happy.

What are your top ten?  Or five?  Or twenty?  Let me know, and I’ll share reader responses in a future blog.

I wish you a happy Tuesday.

Alan

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The Dream Is Free. The Hustle Is Sold Separately.

by Alan Fox 6 Comments

Dream-cloud-peopletools1As the man in front of me ordered his hamburger, I read the words on the back of his T-shirt.  “The Dream is Free.  The Hustle is Sold Separately.”

When I was a kid I had a dream of finding one product, placing an ad in a single magazine, selling more than $1,000,000 of my product, then retiring on my profit at age twenty.  The dream was free.  As it turns out, the hustle was missing.

In my teens I had the dream of being a better writer than Shakespeare.  Again, the dream was absolutely free. I also dreamed of becoming a concert pianist, winning the chess championship of the world, and of being elected president of the United States.  All were free. Then there was my dream of growing up, falling in love, getting married, and living happily ever after.

Dreams are hopeful, comforting, and the outline for a new reality.  All of us enjoy, or should enjoy, dreaming every day of our lives.  But we must realize that most of our dreams are born, and will live and languish, as fantasies.  A friend of mine once noted, “Dreams are extremely fragile outside the womb of the mind.”

One of my daughters dreamed of becoming an Olympic diver.  After her third lesson she announced, “I’m not going back.  The water is cold.”  As an adult she worked diligently for years to become a yoga teacher.

The restaurant chain Wendy’s televised a commercial years ago with the tag line, “Where’s the beef?”  Similarly, with respect to our dreams, we might ask ourselves, “Where’s the hustle?”

Which of your dreams have come true?  Which of your present dreams would you like to come true?  I have good news and bad news.  The good news is that many of your dreams can and will become real.  The bad news is that you will almost certainly have to personally add some hustle.

Those of my dreams which have come true each required effort over a period of many years.

Dream-hustle-peopletoolsIn my late twenties I began to invest in commercial real estate.  Success – the beginning of real success – was ten years away.   Twenty years ago I established the poetry journal Rattle.  Again, real success began after more than a decade of determination.  My wife and I founded The Frieda C. Fox Foundation in 1999.  Due to the efforts of our outstanding executive director, and dozens of family and non-family members, the foundation has become one of the leaders in youth philanthropy.  And our Junior Board, ages eight to seventeen, works persistently to help others, which is now not only our dream, but their dream as well.

I may be stating the obvious in telling you that it takes effort to get from here to there.  But it does.

And as for my dream of “living happily ever after,” which is part of my own fairytale that began, “Once upon a time,” I’m still working on it.  Few farmers plant seeds, walk away, and return to harvest an abundant crop.  Few relationships flourish without care, concern, and consistent attention.

The dreams are free.  And hustle is the not-so-secret sauce of making your dreams come true.

Alan

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