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The Concert Is Today

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concert-today-peopletoolsI have a serious question.

Are you only as good as you need to be?

Before you answer, I offer the observation that, in my experience, none of us is as good all of the time as we can be part of the time. Try as we might, we can’t be at “our best” every hour of every day. And this is just fine.  Sometimes it is really important to be at your best, at other times it is not as important.

So the real question is, “How do you allocate your attention and energy so that you can be at your best—your peak performance—when it’s most important?”

For me, the most important daily task I engage in which I always want to be my best at is driving.  As I told each of my children when they were first learning to drive, if your attention wanders for half an hour in class your grade may suffer.  If your attention wanders for five seconds while you are driving a car, the consequences could be far worse.  In five seconds of inattention you could be dead, or confined to a wheel chair for the rest of your life.  I always aim to be as good at driving as I possibly can every time I drive.

Whenever I walk down a flight of stairs, I’m equally careful.  I pay strict attention to my balance and hold on to the railing (if there is one).  Physical safety is my number one issue, and in this area I always want to be as good as I can be.  An accidental fall, especially one that involves hitting your head on a hard surface, causes many premature deaths.

My father is a world-renowned teacher of brass instruments.  I have seen him, in just a few minutes, help hundreds of students dramatically improve their playing of any wind instrument.  A typical lesson with a new student often ends with my father’s standard advice, which he himself has lived by:

LIfe-dressRehearseal-PeopleTools“Even if you’re practicing on a desert island and there is no one within a thousand miles to hear you, you still must pay strict attention to what you’re doing.  You must approach each practice session as if it was the most important concert of your career.”

That makes perfect sense to me.  When you reinforce a bad habit in practice it will inevitably creep into your performance as well.

It is said that “life is not a dress rehearsal.”  Today is the real thing.  You only have one shot at today and, if you’re lucky, tomorrow.

Consider how much fun it can be to perform a task, even a simple one, to the best of your ability.  Please note that I am not talking about perfection.  Far from it.  I’m simply talking about doing any task, such as my writing this blog, in the best way I can today.  Hopefully, the habit of doing my best will help me to write even better for next week’s blog, and even better than that for my blog the week following.

Think about it.

Are you only as good as you need to be?  Or are you as good as you can be?  The concert is today.

Alan

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Five Secrets of Entertaining a Group

Entertainment-Peopletools-1I don’t think of myself as a professional entertainer.  Far from it.  I’m most comfortable talking with a friend at lunch or, at most, another couple when dining out. I’m outside my comfort zone if I’m expected to socialize with many people in one room.

I still remember a “surprise” party I threw for my girlfriend (later to become my wife) for her nineteenth birthday.  I planned the party for weeks, especially the entertainment which consisted of games with prizes.  I had cleverly structured the evening so that every one of the twelve or fourteen guests would win a valuable prize.  If that sounds to you like I was trying to “buy” friends, you are exactly right.  On the appointed night, even though I waited for an extra hour, two of the invited couples failed to arrive.  This put a crimp in my plans and a dent in my self-esteem.  The party was a success, but by the end of the evening I felt no exhilaration as I shut the front door on the heels of the final couple to leave. I only sensed relief and exhaustion.  There had been no major crisis, and that was about as good as I could have expected.

During the past fifty or more years I have hosted a number of parties for as many as three hundred guests.  I am more comfortable now, since there has never been a disaster. In fact, the vast majority of my guests seem to thoroughly enjoy themselves. I know this because I am often asked, “When’s the next party?” Even so, I still worry.

From my experience I offer five secrets on how to successfully entertain a group of many, even if you’re a natural introvert like I am.

  1. Enjoy yourself during the party. Your guests are watching you, and if you have a smile on your face and interact with many people, they will follow your lead.
  2. Invite a diverse group of people whom you like – no downers, please – and allow them to find each other. Other than for the head table, I never assign seating.  Guests are free to find old friends, connect with new friends, or, as I do at other peoples parties, locate a table off to the side with a single end seat for me so that my wife can be my human conversation shield.
  3. AlanWithCake-Launch Party-2Provide enough food and drink to satisfy everyone. I’ve been to a few parties where the food consisted of stale potato chips and the drink was one bottle of diet coke to be shared six ways.
  4. Get out of the way and let it roll. At the midpoint of my recent 75th birthday party, with 275 invited guests, my party planner Jeanne pushed her way through the crowd to whisper in my ear, “Alan, I’ve lost control of the party.”  And, indeed, she had.  Everyone sat down for dinner forty-five minutes late.  It was impossible to hear the piano player over the clamor of conversation.  And the magician cut his act, not his assistant, in half because everyone was having far too much fun talking and scarfing down cake and ice cream to pay attention to him.  The party was an outstanding success.
  5. On a vacation with many family members or friends, I plan one event a day (usually breakfast or dinner) which everyone is expected to attend. This provides a bit of structure and the opportunity to share experiences.  Otherwise, the vacation, like a party, is a free for all.  Some guests may enjoy bungee jumping, hiking, or horseback riding.  Others may turn to golf, shopping, or reading a book while relaxing near the swimming pool.  All of them will figure out what they would enjoy most, and I don’t have to organize anything, other than for myself.

Of course, if all else fails I might pass out some of those expensive party favors saved from that “surprise” nineteenth birthday party I worried about so many years ago.

Alan

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Life is a Team Sport

Life-Is-A-TeamSport-1I’m in Edinburgh for the Fringe Festival, where every year I like to see as many as seven performances a day (plays, musical shows, comedians). I may be a nut about this, but every so often I enjoy being absorbed in something other than business and writing for a week or ten days.

Last night I was seated in the front row for “Showstoppers,” one of my favorite improvisational groups. Each night these seven actors and three musicians create an original musical — a different show every time. I’m extremely impressed by their creativity as well as their vast knowledge of musical theater. As a group they present original songs, dialogue, and dance steps on the spot, in styles as varied as Steven Sondheim or Sound of Music (styles chosen by the audience). To succeed, each actor, as well as the musicians, has to be quick and coordinate with the others. If they come up with a good idea three seconds late, the entire project could fail and the audience might begin to walk out.

Last night their improvisation, suggested and voted on by the audience, was set in Hell and titled, by a member of the audience, Sinning in the Flames, a take-off on Singing in the Rain. The audience clapped along to several songs, and laughed throughout the performance.

In the lobby after the show I spoke with Dylan, the narrator. He told me that “Showstoppers” has been performing at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival for eight years, and combined with their touring schedule has performed together more than six hundred times. That’s a lot of improvisation. At the end of September the group is opening on London’s West End, England’s version of Broadway. They are more than excited.

“Showstoppers” is a perfect example of teamwork. Each member of the group has to play off the others, sing a different verse of their newly minted songs, and create dance routines which seem to have been rehearsed and practiced for weeks. Teamwork and timing are critical. The songs have to be sung and dance performed in unison throughout the one hour show.

Teamwork. That’s what life is about, whether in families, businesses, or nations. We work together for the benefit of all.

So here I am in my room at the Edinburgh Sheraton, a well located hotel with a friendly staff and great breakfast buffet (teamwork), racing to finish this blog before leaving for a highly rated comedian who starts his show in thirty-five minutes. But even his one-man show is the product of teamwork. After all, organizing and presenting the festival is an enormous team effort. Each show does need ticket takers.

Life-Is-A-TeamSport-2And my team will take over when I finish writing this blog. Nancy and Joel will help to edit, before I revise, and Kat will add graphics and put this blog up on the Peopletoolsbook.com web site. (Lauren normally does that but she and her husband are here with us in Edinburgh, taking in the sights today.) It’s fun, and effective, for me to work with a passionate and dedicated team, especially when I’m out of the office or, in this case, out of the country.

And I’ll be back at my desk next Monday morning, implementing business improvisations with the ACF and People Tools teams. At my office we each have an important role but, unlike “Showstoppers,” we have the advantage of perfecting our act over hours or days, not just a few seconds. That is certainly a relief to me.

Alan

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