The Perfect Moments in My Life

I have heard it said that when you are dying you remember the moments, not the hours or the days, of your life.

I’m still very much alive, enjoying almost every moment, and I’ve been thinking about a few of the perfect moments in my life.  I don’t remember them all, and a flawless moment is as rare as a flawless diamond, but here are some of those moments in the order I remember them.

Talking with my mother in the kitchen when I was five or six as she cooked dinner for the family. The time we spent together was made even more perfect by the snacks I learned to make during our two-hour long conversations.  My mother often said, “Alan, you are so interesting.”

Seeing my first daughter Jill carried into the waiting room on the shoulder of the physician, minutes after she was born.

Winning first place in debate, extemporaneous speaking, and impromptu speaking in my final speech competition in college.

Four hours in bed one afternoon with a woman I loved.

Acting in a school play when I was thirteen. Scary, but perfect.

In the temple, carrying the Torah, feeling I was a part of a community, as we celebrated the sixtieth wedding anniversary of my Aunt Gert and her husband Reuben.

The announcement posted in the hallway of my daughter Jill’s high school that she had won all four rounds in her first debate tournament.

My brother David defending me against an especially nasty attorney who was taking my deposition in a lawsuit.

Asking her to marry me.  The perfect moment was when she immediately said, “Yes.”

Having six of my poems accepted by a USC literary journal when I was an undergraduate.

When I was eighteen, inserting the keys into the ignition of my first new car. It was a metallic blue Volkswagen.

At summer camp, age thirteen, deeply inhaling the scent of pine trees.

Seeing the movie “Amadeus” and identifying with the court composer Salieri who knew he would never be as good as Mozart.

Running to the car with my first wife to escape from imaginary villains after seeing the movie, “The Guns of Navarone.”

Sitting with my wife in the first row center of a Broadway theater as Bernadette Peters sang, just to me, one of my favorite songs, “Send in the Clowns.”

Shakespeare’s “The Taming of the Shrew” performed in Claremont by the American Conservatory Theater of San Francisco.

Shaking hands with John F. Kennedy at USC when I was twenty-one and he was running for President.

Each of my children’s weddings.

Breakfast with my eldest granddaughter, Grace, when she was nineteen.

Touching my high school girl-friend under her sweater for the first time.

Hugging my father on his 100^th birthday.

Depositing at my bank the biggest check I had ever received.

Standing with my arms around a woman in my office one evening, looking down at the lights, as she said, “Mr. and Mrs. God.”

Conversations with my personal trainer, before or instead of working out.

Shakespeare lectures at USC by Dr. Alan Casson.

My children, as adults, asking for my advice.

Plays I’ve attended at the Edinburgh Festival.

Looking deep into my beloved’s eyes.  Many moments.

Watching someone I love sleeping peacefully.

Walking dazed into the New York City sunlight after a conversation with Father Daniel Berrigan in his apartment, knowing that I had been in the presence of one of the greatest men I had ever known.  Daniel died recently, and I realized once again how lucky I was to have known him.  Here is a link to our conversation. http://www.rattle.com/a-conversation-with-daniel-berrigan/

Here is a link to the New York Times obituary for Father Berrigan:  http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/01/nyregion/daniel-j-berrigan-defiant-priest-who-preached-pacifism-dies-at-94.html?smprod=nytcore-iphone&smid=nytcore-iphone-share

Sharing these moments with you.

Imagining all the perfect moments that you may have loved.  And I would appreciate your sharing one of those moments with me and our other readers.

Thanks.

Alan