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- Category: Appearances
- LIVE Interview on KCBS News
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- How to deal with a horrible boss on WGN-TV Morning Show
- A BIG surprise on The Meredith Vieira Show
- KNBC: Life Connected Series with Fred and Alan Fox
- On the Couch Q+A with Dr. Michelle
- Read My Lips Q+A with Bonnie D. Graham
- Alan Celebrates Steve Harveys Birthday on the Steve Harvey show
- 12 Books Group Q+A with Alan
- Alan makes his TV debut on The Better Show
- Why it Pays to be a Contrarian
- Live interview on Relationships 2.0 Show
- Interview on Strategies For Success
- On Air with The Entrepreneurs Library
- Live interview on Small Business Advocate Show
- Live interview with Dr. Deb Carlin, The K Factor
- Live Chat on Booktrib
- Live interview on Armstrong Williams Show, WGCV-AM
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- First Review of People Tools for Business
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- Live Interview on Channel 17, COX – Santa Barbara
- Category: Business Tips
- Category: Career Advice
- Fight On!!!
- Five Tips on How to Succeed at Everything
- The Dream Is Free. The Hustle Is Sold Separately.
- Avoid the Investment Road to Ruin
- Five Reasons to Make the First Offer Work
- Got A Problem? Let Your Subconscious Solve It
- My Business Secrets Are Out
- Why Being Fired Can Improve Your Life
- Always Leave Them Wanting More
- 5 Ways to Make the Annual Review Process Less Painful
- Get Past Perfect
- 5 Tips for Effective Delegation
- Saying “No” – In 7 Easy Steps
- Multi-Goaling
- People With Goals Use People Without Goals
- Catch the Up Elevator
- Category: Inspiration
- A Few Things I’ve Learned
- Diving off the High Board
- Grab My Attention – It’s up to You
- Since You Can Never Tell, Always Tell
- The Top Ten Things That I Enjoy
- The Concert Is Today
- Dear Rodgers and Hammerstein
- Do I Dare Disturb the Universe
- A Surprise Appearance on the Steve Harvey Show
- The Best Defense Is No Defense
- Emotion Trumps Intellect (or Does it?)
- My Trip to Bountiful
- Long Ago and Far Away
- I Want to Be Your Hero
- At Age 74- What Has Happened to Me?
- You Will Prevail
- Cuddles
- Catching a Feather
- Six Lessons from My Father’s 100th Birthday Party
- I Always Want the Best for You
- Things Are Only Things
- Apologize- Even if You’re Right
- The Grass Is Greener Right Now
- Happy 100th Birthday, Dad
- 10 Tools for Building Better Relationships
- Are You Highly Creative?
- Shrink the Glass
- An Audience of One
- Why I Would like to Be James Bond
- Stick It Out
- Over the Rainbow
- Life Is an Improv
- Fivelements
- Throw out the Dish Towel
- Samui Breeze
- The Gift of Yourself
- The Corners of Eyes
- Cuddling
- How Does Love Die
- Where Does All the Time Go?
- Uneven Steps
- A Daughter
- The Trunk, and the Closet, Each Ate My Keys
- I’d Rather Be Right Than President
- The Best
- Laura and Itzhak
- No One’s Child
- My Wife
- Cutting Through the Fog
- I’m Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf
- The Tyranny of Tickets
- Why I Hate Poetry
- Go Climb A Mountain
- The Magic Piano
- Experiencing Joy
- Category: Management
- Category: Poems
- Category: Relationships
- I . . . I . . . I Love You
- Love Hard, Forgive Harder
- When Honesty and Kindness Collide
- A Little Bit of Oil
- The Light Bulb Has to Want to Change
- Predictions Have Consequences
- Take Responsibility for Your Performance
- Chocolate Ice Cream and Parallel Paths
- Mindreading – If You Loved Me I Wouldn’t Have to Ask
- Improve Your Relationship- Catch Them Being Better
- Life is a Team Sport
- Communicate Positively – Yes I’m Sure
- “No” Before “Yes”
- The Equal Relationship Is an Enduring Relationship
- The Family Conference
- The Marriage of Action to Consequences
- Throw Your Stereotypes in the Wastebasket
- No I Not
- You Don’t Always Have to Answer the Telephone
- You Are My Valentine
- Put on Your Own Oxygen Mask First
- Will You Please Do Me a Favor?
- Let’s Talk about Money
- How to Be the Right Person
- The Five Kinds of I’m Sorry
- Is It Safe?
- One Partner Who Is Both Reliable and Exciting
- The Sizzle and the Steak
- If the Yolk Breaks, Fry Another Egg
- The Ticker Tape
- Pineapple Fluff
- Kids Will Be Grownups
- “Knock Knock.” “Who’s there?”
- How to Find the Right Person
- From Whence Flows Love
- Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are
- Category: Self-Improvement
- The Man Who Disappeared
- Make It Easy for Me
- Clapping for Customers
- Five Secrets of Entertaining a Group
- Let It Loose, Marco: It’s Never Too Late to Succeed
- I Want You to Like Me – 5 Tips
- Don’t Do the Math
- The Positive Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
- Empathy Becomes Real
- The Reward of Taking a Chance
- Snip
- Be like Socrates: Get to Know Thyself
- The Spotlight of Now
- Living by Principle
- Seven Tips on How to Make a Great First Impression
- G(oals) P(riorities) S(teps) for the New Year
- Or Am I a Butterfly Dreaming I Am a Man?
- Category: Tools
- A Life Structure
- Take It Like a Man
- A Snippet of Your Life
- The Good News (And the Bad News)
- Street Fair
- Trick or Treat
- Dodging a Bullet
- The Shortest Distance
- Remarried
- Values From My Dad
- The Coach Cried
- Golf
- Ah, to Be Young Again
- The High Cost of Culture
- The Bottom of the Swimming Pool
- Who Can Solve All of Your Problems?
- Sharing
- Permission to Quit
- Happy Birthday, Dad
- Oscar
- Passing to Wiser Minds
- …To Forgive, Sublime
- My Doctor’s “Oops” Moment
- Contrasts
- Why Be Upset?
- An Appreciation of Electricity (And Other Technological Innovations)
- Occupying Your Personal Niche
- Inevitable
- The Importance of Encouragement
- Being There
- It’s Deja Vu All Over Again
- Why Do We Eat Our Cake Last?
- The Last Resort
- Malingering in the Rain
- Perchance to Dream
- Happy Mothers’ Day
- Victimhood
- Yes
- The Sunny Side of the Street
- Your Legacy
- 100 Times
- Rain Drops Keep Falling on My Head: Reflections on a Rainy Day
- Philippe the Original
- Delight
- The View From My Bed
- The Tyranny (And Freedom) of Deadlines
- Just Another Number
- Ocassionally You Have to Wear Your Favorite Shirt
- MOM, WHAT CAN I DO TODAY?
- The Story Behind the Photo
- New Home
- Artificial Intelligence – Is There a God?
- “Aside From That, Mrs. Lincoln, How Was the Play?”
- A Moving Experience
- The Three G’s of Relationships
- I’d Like to Be Your First
- Appreciating Every (Extra) Day
- The House by the Side of the Road
- The Beloved Banyan Tree
- The Rules
- Love the One You’re With
- Notes From Pittsburgh
- Boston Nightmare
- Bragging About Nagging
- Apologize – Even When You Have Done Nothing Wrong
- Raindrops Keep Falling on My . . . Roof?
- The Structure of Our Lives: A Philosophical Inquiry
- How I Spent Part of My Summer Vacation
- Sunk Cost — One of My Favorite People Tools
- Barbieheimer Day
- There Is Nothing Good or Bad but Thinking Makes It So
- Are Your Parenting (And People) Skills Ready for Prime Time?
- Help! I’ve Lost My Cell Phone and I Can’t Wake Up!
- Adventures in Edinburgh
- Retire? Who, Me?
- How I Learned to Love People and Not Things
- Traveling
- Return From the North Pole
- The North Pole
- Go With Your Decision
- Connection
- Change Gently
- The Best Day of My Life
- One Day a Year
- What Would I Do if …
- Retirement Is Not on My to Do List
- Oy Vacation
- Notes From New Zealand — Redeux
- Book Report From New Zealand
- Notes From New Zealand
- You Create Your Own Stage. The Audience is Waiting
- And Now, a New Hello
- Jill, a Final Goodbye
- It’s Warm in Los Angeles
- A Photo From Hawaii
- My Messy Desk
- White Socks: A Lesson in Etiquette
- Phrasing: Drive Safely
- The Merchants of Venice
- The Attic Is in the Basement
- How My Life Turned Out: A Random, Interim Report
- What Do I Want Most to Know About Myself…?
- On Saying “Thank You”
- I’d Rather Be Pragmatic Than Right
- Shakespeare, Dr. Allan Casson, and Me
- Filter What You Think
- The Possibility of Company
- Football Afternoons
- Saturday
- Grab Someone’s Attention
- Every Day Is Special
- Los Angeles, or Stevenson, Washington
- Easter Island and a Lesson in Pragmatism
- Immortality? Sorry
- Thinking Fast and Slow
- Diana Ross – The Supreme Supreme
- The Vanishing Thought
- The Piano Man
- The Buck Stops Here
- A Prisoner of Capability
- Reminiscing
- Party, Party, Party
- 60th Wedding Anniversary
- Friendship
- Add Value Every Day
- You Don’t Have to Finish Everything on Your Plate
- Catalina Island – 1944 and 2022
- Dad Could Not Go Home Again – A Remembrance
- Bucket List
- The Losses Swallow the Gains
- In Our Back Yard?
- Turning Points
- Are We Back to (A New) Normal?
- Life Is a Stroll, a Leap, and a Dig
- Add Value, Revisited
- First, a Cobweb
- Decisions, Decisions
- How I Met Daveen
- Plan B
- A Barrier of Mist
- Chess
- Lunch With Grandpa
- Color Each Phrase
- The Feud
- An Apple Fritter a Day
- A Straight Line
- Fitting In
- A Sense of Entitlement
- Did You Miss Me?
- Bye Bye Football
- It Isn’t 1975 Any More
- It’s a New Year All Over Again
- How We Change
- Miss America
- Self-Imposed Limits
- The TV Remote
- Life Lessons From My Father
- Don’t Let False Beliefs Rule Your Life
- Keeping Our Stuff
- Hurry Up (And Wait?)
- Remembering
- I Came Back Too Soon
- Of Course It’s True
- My Missing Flipper Returns, Sort Of
- My Missing Flipper
- Racing Through Life
- The Partial Vanishing of Alan
- The Benefits of Procrastination
- Debating Against Larry
- My Life as a Juggler
- Banish the Elephant
- Facing the Monster
- Four Hours in Ketchikan
- Teaching
- A Single Step
- A Random Act Of Kindness
- Dedadlines
- Humpty Dumpty
- A Perfect Day
- Conventional Wisdom
- Inspiration and Forgetting
- The Deer
- Why Do You Want to Accumulate Money?
- Kobe Bryant – Rest in Peace
- Lord of the Flies
- “Sunk Cost” Revisited
- Spring Has Sprung
- The Shortest Distance
- Keep It Brief
- Unexpected Joy
- Living Well Is the Best Revenge
- Fortieth Anniversary
- The World Is Filled With Roadblocks…and With Roads
- A Pirate’s Tale
- Rose or Thorn
- Put on Your Own Oxygen Mask First
- Gentle Guide or Dictator?
- Teamwork – Yes!
- How to Deal With Toxic People
- In a Hurry?
- Adding Value – a Bicycle, for Example
- The Freedom of Sunk Cost
- Bye Bye Brownies
- Pick Your Battles
- A Single Cherry Tomato
- You Can Go Home Again
- A Journey of a Thousand Miles
- Cul-de-Sac
- How to Get What You Want Every Single Day
- A Trophy Dad
- When Your Emotional Tank Is Nearly Empty
- How I Spent My Summer Vacation (in Cabin 13)
- Add Value
- The Monkey, the Fence, and the Bananas
- The Kindness of Strangers
- Keep the Genie in the Bottle
- A New Frame
- You Can’t Go Home Again
- In Praise of Simplicity
- Dancing the Rules Away
- People Tools Revisited
- Longer Is Shorter
- Couples, Conflict, and Compromise
- Transitions
- You Are Part of the Solution
- A Perfect Moment
- Emotional Inflammation
- Cobweb, Cord, and Cable
- Make It Interesting
- A Lemon, Fritz Coleman, and Black Holes
- The Emperor
- A Bright Penny
- Dear Dad, June 2020
- Tell Me a Story
- The Pleasure Is the Treasure
- Find Your Niche and Occupy It
- I Climb a Mountain
- Walking Down Stairs
- Be Your Own Best Friend
- Getting to Know You
- It’s a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood
- Perspective, or “Your Hands Freeze First”
- Yes It Would
- A Pandemic of Positivity
- The Roads We Travel
- 80? Really?
- Your Bequest
- Dear David
- How Thin Is Your Skin?
- Tale of Two Restaurants
- One Early Memory
- The Girl Behind the Camera
- Dear Mom
- Dear Dad
- There Is More to Life Than Your Highlight Reel
- Happy New Years Resolutions
- How About the Night After Christmas?
- The Great Giveaway
- Two Lessons Learned – Part Two
- Two Lessons Learned – Part One
- How Thick Is Your Skin?
- Create Your Oasis
- Secrets and Friends
- Drive Carefully
- Do Unto Yourself
- If Not Now, When?
- The 80% Solution Revisited
- Suffering is Optional
- Dear Dad,
- We Listen to Pleasure; We Obey Pain
- “Pre-Eating” and Other Unconscious Habits
- Make It Easy for Me
- Happy Talk
- You Can Accomplish a Lot in Fewer Than Four Minutes
- Make Your Life as Short as You Can
- Avoid Investment Losses – Here Is Why
- “Patterns Persist” Revisited
- Don’t Worry, Be Happy
- Vive La Différence
- Lil Mama
- The Shotgun Under the Bed
- Well, That Just Happened
- The Kindness Diaries
- Where Have All the Flowers Gone?
- Mr. Wonderful
- Family
- Rest in Peace
- The Best-Laid Plans
- A Tale of Two Grandpas (As Told by the Lying Down Comedian).
- Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
- What Would a Practicing Pragmatist Do?
- Love Is a Four Letter Word
- Moving Forward
- Room with a View
- Thank You
- A Little Rain Must Fall
- Us vs Them – It’s Hard Wired
- On Being Kind
- Rushing to . . . Why?
- How to Effectively Improve All of Your Relationships in Three Easy Steps
- Catch Yourself Being Effective
- Let Your Subconscious Solve It
- How to Climb a Mountain
- Loyalty and Jan
- Cheating and Connection
- Loving a Quiet Dog
- Kindness
- Why Do We Call Them “Apartments”?
- There Is No Glass
- Your Priorities – Make Them Clear and Conscious
- The Fault, Dear Brutus, Is Not in Our Stars
- Invest in Yourself — It’s Magic
- Ripples
- Gratitude, an Attitude
- Should I Tap Them on the Shoulder?
- Different Preferences – Do We Agree?
- Don’t Rain on Your Own Parade
- Is It Truthful, Kind, and Necessary?
- Let’s Agree to Agree
- A Poetry Slam in the Mountains
- A Friendly Phone Call
- Four Minus One Equals Zero
- Pleasing All of the People All of the Time
- The Fear Is Inside Me
- I Will Fall Into Your Arms
- My Bias for “Yes”
- Highly Helpful Habits (Or Not)
- Play the Hand You’re Dealt
- The Joy of Slowing Down
- Addicted to Money
- Encounter in an Elevator
- Find the Silver Lining
- A Good Friend Will Tell You the Truth
- With Gratitude the Glass Is Always Full
- As the Twig Is Bent
- Enjoy Every Moment of Your Life
- Phrasing
- Make It Easy for Me
- The Use of Grief
- Two Words to Change Your Life – I’m Sorry
- My Adventures in Dating
- Better Quality T.P.
- Apricot Jam
- Complaining to Myself
- Small Gestures
- I Can’t Wait for the Sun to Come up
- I Ask for Help
- If at First You Don’t Succeed
- Profit Is Not the Answer
- A Gift
- Do You Have B. O.?
- The Pogo Stick Finale
- Happiness from Lowering Your Expectations
- My Dog Ate My Pogo Stick
- Why Is It Better to Say “I Love You” First?
- A Bounce in My Step – Soon
- Bouncing for Aerobic Joy
- A New Year – Release Your Inner Enthusiast
- 2019 – Another Ride down the Fire Pole
- Living in the Moment – Is There Another Choice?
- Whose Armrest Is It Anyway?
- Add Perceived Value
- Why I Waited Until the Last Minute to Write This Blog
- My Challenge to Change Revisited
- Paved with Good Intentions
- The Challenge to Change
- Letting Go
- As the Twig Is Bent
- Kindred Spirits
- Snatching Defeat from the Jaws of Victory
- First Man Standing
- The Five Freedoms of Facing Failure
- Three Top Tips for Happiness
- The Parable of Two Captains
- Pretend You’re on a Desert Island
- The Hidden Sun
- One Year to Live
- I Had Rather Be Right Than . . .
- The Grumble Mumble Crumble
- When Do You Come First?
- More Profit Is the Enemy: the New Capitalism
- Let’s Not Add Insult to a Relationship
- Playing the Long Game
- Today, Tomorrow, and Yesterday
- The Inner Game of Peace
- Late Morning Rain
- This Is the Week That Was
- “Lord, What Fools These Mortals Be”
- My Way Is the Highway
- Accounting for Success
- Seven Life Skills I Learned from My Mother
- The Ghosts Are Moving Out
- A Toast to an Old Friend
- Seven Benefits of Being Nice
- Planning Your Life Backwards
- Marriage Is a Team Sport
- The Fragrance of the Roses
- After the Party’s Over
- A Nonfish in Freezing Water
- Our New Zealand Hike – or How Sprite Saved My Life
- Writing to Meet a Deadline
- After the Wedding – A View from the Groom
- Let’s Advertise Our Mistakes
- Give a Reason
- The First Time
- Celebrating a New Relationship
- Would It Help?
- First Thing Each Morning
- Stay Imperfct for a Happy New Year
- Strange Thoughts on a Cold Winter’s Night
- Traditions Are, Well, Transitory
- The Best Christmas Present You Ever Received
- Doing Nothing
- What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?
- You’re Hired
- “Yes,” “No,” or “Maybe”?
- My Five Minute Football Career
- Everyone Wants to Succeed Until . . .
- A House with a New View
- The Priority of Your Attention
- The Comfort of Truth
- The Joy of Discovery
- What to Do with a Pinch
- Poof
- Do Your Hot Chocolate Right
- It Feels so Good When It Stops
- The Entrepreneur Within
- How to Connect – Join Their Enthsiasm
- Leading a Life of Noisy Desperation
- How Do You Scare Yourself?
- If the Shoe Doesn’t Fit . . .
- Put Your Nose Back on Your Face
- How Do You Ever Know?
- Who Are You When No One Is Looking?
- Don’t Slam Your Computer Around
- The Gift of Clarity, Consideration, Consistency and Completeness
- Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter Here
- You Can Accomplish a Lot in Four Minutes
- How Hidden Are Your Agendas?
- The Perfect Moments in My Life
- Relationship Tens and Twos
- Erase
- The Business (and Pleasure) of Living Well
- My Delightful Four Day 76th Birthday Party
- A Relationship Is like a Three-Legged Race
- How I Solve Problems: the 4 C’s
- Anger Is a Lonely Job
- Three Pieces of Paper on My Desk
- Trust Begins and Ends with You
- Pick Your Fear – Engulfment or Abandonment
- Do It Now
- The Ultimate New Year’s Resolution
- A Christmas Gift – Don’t Fall
- Five Tips on Teamwork
- Positive Words, Positive Thoughts for the New Year
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- Pasadena Book Signings - Spring 2015
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